A smack in the face

July 16, 2007 at 8:50 am (law, parenting)

I’m not sure where I stand on the proposed law to ban parents from giving their kids a smack across the bum.
On the one hand I don’t think hitting a child constantly is good for them – they’ll just become obstinate and eventually think violence is a way to deal with issues.
On the other hand I think a hit on the bum didn’t kill me. It meant boundaries, discipline, respect. I certainly don’t go around beating others up.
I’ve never suffered adverse effects and neither have my siblings who received considerably more hidings than I did.
Constant beatings are obviously bad but why would you take that kind of agency from parents? I’m kinda pissed off that my mom could be accused of child abuse if she happens to smack my little brother because of something he’s done.
Kids need boundaries and limits. They need rules and need to know they will be punished if they don’t obey their parents.
Shouldn’t the decision still be left up to parents?

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6 Comments

  1. madamm said,

    it should, and nobody should tell parents what they need to do to get their kids to stay in line.
    But parents should never hit a child ‘just cos’ or abuse them perpetually…

  2. tbhanks said,

    I know Mrs M, but who draws the line though. My gut feeling is parents should be allowed to hit their kids if their kids are naughty. But what if parents can’t distinguish between punishment because their kids are naughty or punishment just cos…

  3. madamm said,

    Nobody draws the line. There’s just not enough manpower in the world to police the parenting skills of everybody who is a parent.
    We can look at research and deduce that hitting little Johnny just cos you’re PMS’ing causes him to have severe panic attacks later in life.
    Or we can look at the McCann’s and the Kaspers of the world and shout: Gotcha! but abuse is only monitored when extreme. Man, there are so many sick people out there, it’s despicable…and it will continue, because abuse (usually) breeds abuse.
    You can’t punish a kid just cos. If you do, you don’t deserve to have a child.

  4. Toby Hanks said,

    that’s certainly true. so do you think this law is a good thing or not?

  5. Mrs M said,

    THE GOVERNMENT can go F* themselves as far as this law is concerned. There is not enough good service delivery in South Africa (though there is SOME, to speak of) that tells me our Government should even be addressing this apparent need at this point. half the time, they’re like a bunch of petulant kids anyway.
    Just as an aside, I got really irked yesterday when I read Zuma said he doesn’t read newspapers and that people shouldn’t read newspapers. Do we really want someone like that in charge? He is sucH a dumb f*!!!

  6. Toby Hanks said,

    He clearly doesn’t read newspapers because he’s related to a bag of five-pound hammers. That’s also why he thinks taking a shower post-sexual relations with an HIV+ woman is an antidote.

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