Dilemmas of the face

May 17, 2007 at 8:59 am (colleagues and friends)

Three invitations to join Facebook in two weeks. But what to do? I don’t know if I can juggle that as well as all the other stuff going on in Tobyland. Yet I don’t know how I can not join as I don’t want to hurt the people’s feelings and have them feel rejected like Shaun Okes . Help!
Ok, the thing is this – I have tried Orkut but never really got into it enough to update and plough myself in there. So I know I’m not good with the social network thing. With this blog I write in my own time and the only commitment I have is to produce words (which I should be good at considering it’s my job!).
But if I sign up for Facebook I have to commit to messages and pictures and…well, stuff – and I’m just not sure I can do it. So what do I do? Do I:
a) sign up knowing I may not be able to keep it up but do it not to hurt people’s feelings?
b) not sign up because it’s worse to not keep up to date on the site?
c) hope the people who sent the invitation won’t feel bad because it’s not that I don’t like them, I just don’t know if I can do it?
d) not worry about it and rather focus on world peace?
This is a dilemma for me indeed. I actually feel very bad for not having done anything about the invitations so far. I’ve tried to figure out a way to negotiate this dilemma on my own but failed dismally. Hence asking you, lovely reader, for some advice.



  1. Walton said,

    Join Facebook. It actually is really cool, and doesn’t require much servicing once you’re on it. Upload a picture, fill in some details, and then import feed from your blog to put on the front page.

    I’ve tried a number of social networking sites, from MySpace to Tribe, and I’ve lost interest very quickly. Facebook is different – maybe because there are so many people you know on it already.


  2. tbhanks said,

    Thanks Walton. I think I’ll give it a try then. And thanks for the tip of feeding the blog into it. Didn’t occur to me!

  3. madamm said,

    join it dear. If you really feel obliged.
    Been there and all. Blogging works for me.

  4. batman5172 said,

    make sure you join with you gmail account, it gets blocked in our world

  5. tbhanks said,


  6. tbhanks said,

    thanks mrs m. I am still a bit unsure but starting to sway.

  7. JoziJ said,

    you better sign up – i need some more friends!

  8. tbhanks said,

    Ha, ha. Ok, I guess I’ve been persuaded. I’ll have to sign on. But do you update more than your blog, JoziJ?

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